Gift of Peace and Reality

 Nothing is permanent except change. Embracing change especially when it involves ending a relationship is painful.  It is a gift of personal discovery.  A gift of peace,  a gift of reality and clarity.  Anyone is never too old to renew your mind and heal from unhealthy relationship.

Letting Go and Moving On

I left the house at 6am to work, out into the soggy morning. A light rain started again. Normally I’d seek shelter, but my feet led me into the open air of a nearby park.  I settled into a bench and sat in the rain, alone. I saw the trees and sky as if for the first time.

In that solitude, I felt peace and witnessed my life from a great distance. 

It was only in this moment of solitude that my path forward became clear.

Only the quiet reflection of solitude allows our heart’s desires to be heard, and our heart is the true source of wisdom and joy. Letting it lead is the path to great results. 

There is indeed peace in solitude.  Being alone is good.  It makes you free as a birds....flying high and low, enjoying every bit of freedom from the friendly skies. Soaring like eagles. You roar like a lion in the deep forest. Like the waves kissing the shore at the end of a long journey.

Healing and Forgiveness

Individuals who have been hurt, betrayed, and abused have the right to be angry and resentful. These are normal reactions and emotions when feeling the crushed spirit that can come from being disrespected or abused. If not dealt with, such angry reactions can damage personal health on several levels.

Keypoints to share for emotional healing:

• The reality is that anger needs to be acknowledged and processed even though most people are not comfortable with their anger in the first place.

• Acknowledging revenge fantasies within oneself or with trusted others is integral to the process of freeing oneself from the shackles of anger.

• Finding common ground between yourself and your offender/aggressor helps to lead the way to forgiveness.

• At the same time, seeing how you are different in that you would not act out in the same way also keeps you separate which is important to promoting emotional health.

• Forgiving yourself is crucial for healing. To forgive yourself, you must accept that you were/are vulnerable and allow yourself to be human. This means accepting that you may have made mistakes if, in fact you had made any concerning your safety or welfare.

• To truly heal yourself you must be willing to move from our "pleasure world" of main stream consciousness and acknowledge, and stay in, with inner pride, your own suffering. The mainstream world we live in fills us with media portraying easy living devoid of pain. Freeing yourself means you must leave the fairy dust fantasies of what you SHOULD have in life and accept the painful realities that have come your way.

I find the above points easy to relate to as I consider the painful experiences I have faced in life. Coming out on top from painful memories of betrayal. 

"Suffering is the only thing powerful enough to wake you up to reality."

Reference: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/liking-the-child-you-love/201010/anger-forgiveness-and-healing

Solitude

Solitude
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As the world spins faster and faster—or maybe it just seems that way when an email can travel around the world in fractions of a second—we mortals need a variety of ways to cope with the resulting pressures. We need to maintain some semblance of balance and some sense that we are steering the ship of our life.

Otherwise, we feel overloaded, overreact to minor annoyances and feel like we can never catch up. As far as I'm concerned, one of the best ways is by seeking, and enjoying, solitude.

That said, there is an important distinction to be established right off the bat. There is a world of difference between solitude and loneliness, though the two terms are often used interchangeably.

From the outside, solitude and loneliness look a lot alike. Both are characterized by solitariness. But all resemblance ends at the surface.

Loneliness is a negative state, marked by a sense of isolation. One feels that something is missing. It is possible to be with people and still feel lonely—perhaps the most bitter form of loneliness.

Solitude is the state of being alone without being lonely. It is a positive and constructive state of engagement with oneself. Solitude is desirable, a state of being alone where you provide yourself a wonderful and sufficient company.

Solitude is a time that can be used for reflection, inner searching or growth or enjoyment of some kind. Deep reading requires solitude, so does experience the beauty of nature. Thinking and creativity usually do too.

Solitude suggests peacefulness stemming from a state of inner richness. It is a means of enjoying the quiet and whatever it brings that is satisfying and from which we draw sustenance. It is something we cultivate. Solitude is refreshing; an opportunity to renew ourselves. In other words, it replenishes us.

Loneliness is harsh, punishment, a deficiency state, a state of discontent marked by a sense of estrangement, an awareness of excess aloneness.

Solitude is something you choose. Loneliness is imposed on you by others.

We all need periods of solitude, although temperamentally we probably differ in the amount of solitude we need. Some solitude is essential; It gives us time to explore and know ourselves. It is the necessary counterpoint to intimacy, what allows us to have a self-worthy of sharing. Solitude gives us a chance to regain perspective. It renews us for the challenges of life. It allows us to get (back) into the position of driving our own lives, rather than having them run by schedules and demands from without.

Solitude restores body and mind. Loneliness depletes them.

Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/articles/200307/what-is-solitude

Forgiveness

I would like to start 2019 by forgiving people. I still believe that good will come to me someday. I want to live my life with minimal stress and worries. 

First on my list: Forgiveness

Forgiveness is the process of giving up resentment towards a person or situation. It is showing empathy when someone has done wrong towards you. Holding on to pain and anger only hurts you in the long run, so deciding to accept what has occurred and release the associated negative emotions is empowering. Letting go of the emotions does not mean restoring trust in someone, but it does mean not letting the situation have power over you. There are certain transgressions that are more difficult for us to move past. Forgiving others for actions that have physically or emotionally harmed such as abuse, neglect, or us is more difficult as there has been a loss of trust and boundaries crossed. These are situations where forgiveness can occur in order to move forward. 

Life is a Journey

Finding inspiration. Embracing faith, peace, contentment, hope for a better journey and Loving yourself more.

This year's holiday has been a very trying time for me, for various reasons. I have been gifted once more with spending quality time with my family, I came to seek,  the strength and courage I need for the road ahead. 

I can feel that all shall be well. And all the quiet moments here at Hillcrest Park has given me the much needed time my spirit had been looking to collect my thoughts,  and quiet my mind and heart. I am so glad that I decided to run the stairs, walk to the park and breathe. Sometimes, you must really listen to your heart, and at all times always let God lead, entrusting the timing of all things to Him.